The good, the bad and the ugly

After a few meetings and the out of town get together you would things would be smooth sailing.  Well, not so much.  You see a SD can only fulfill so much in a girls life.  And as mine said he thought I should start dating I did. 

I met and fell head over hills in love with a man who was extremely stable.  When I say extremely stable I mean owned his home (well mortgaged), owned his car (paid off) and had been at his job for nine years and loved what he did. So, you would think my life was grand.

Well, I wanted to keep seeing my SD since I was still living on my own and I had yet to move in with my new found love.  I needed to keep up with the bills and such.  However, my SD became very flaky.  Things like texting me non-stop to meet up with him so I would change my plans and such to do so.  Then once I was on my way to meet up with him nothing... no texts returned, no phone calls, nothing.  This happened several times and I became very irritated with the situation.

Yes, I realize that as a SB I am totally at the mercy of my SD but its very disrespectful to be like that.  So, the long and short of it all is I stopped being an SB for a while.  Actually almost an entire year to be exact.  During that year I moved in with my new found love, he built a new house for us four to move in to and we moved to it.  Then life would take another turn I never saw coming.

Here, there and every where

So the first few times we got together he came to my place.  This worked because my girls were at school or away to their father's.  See in the beginning of my divorce I was very nice and accommodating to try to make it easier on my girls so they were at their fathers a lot.  Anyway one night my SD decided he wanted me to come on a trip with him.  Actually he was out of town and text me begging for me to come keep him company.  Luckily I was off work and the girls were gone.  So after packing quickly and a two hour drive I met up with him at his hotel.  It was nice to be out of town and kind of free to be with him and not have to worry.  See I don't think I've explained yet that my SD was married.  If I did I'm sorry for repeating myself.  So, being discreet was key for him and since my life consisted of the po-dunk town I lived in, and my incredible girls, he had really no worries that anyone would find out about him and me.  Let alone the fact that my family would shun me for the rest of my life.  So there we were out of town together.  He took me out to dinner but gave me the low down of what the story was in case we ran in to someone he knew.  He was there on business so it was possible but unlikely we would run in to someone.  However... we did!!!  He covered well, I smiled and shook hands with someone I to this day would never know again and the night went on.  Dinner was nice but the obvious reason he begged me to come to see him was after dinner and was incredible.  I have never been with someone who could last like he did or that made me feel the way he did.  I made him so happy and pleased over and over and over.  The night was wonderful and I got up early to leave before anyone that he knew could see me leaving his room.  I got back in to my car to drive the two hours home and return to my normal life.  This would be the one and only time I would go out of town with him but it was a nice change from my normal life.

The first meeting

Now that I look back I was very naive.  My first sugar daddy (SD), we'll call him Steve, and I sent messages via the website a few times.  Then e-mails, then text messages, a few phone calls and then he came to my home for our first meeting.  Yes, to my home.  Was this the best idea? Um, probably not considering I lived in a very rural area and no one would know anything happened to me until I didn't show up to pick my girls up from school that day.  Luckily it all turned out fine but I don't recommend doing that whatsoever.  Of course the first meeting, especially for two first timers, is very awkward.   Nowadays its really no big deal for me.  First meetings consist of a lunch or dinner and its more like a job interview then anything.  But our first meeting lasted for quite a while.  We talked about a lot of things from family to his work to the financial arrangement.  I have always left this issue up to them.  I'm not selling myself.  I'm not a prostitute.  It is their choice how they want to help whether it be money, grocery shopping, etc.  It also is up to them in how often they will help.  I really lucked out in this area the first go around because every time he saw me I got money which helped my situation greatly. 

So, after talking for a while we moved on to the real reason why he was there.  It was an interesting experience.  I thought I would hate it and hate myself for it but I didn't.  I enjoyed it greatly because for the first time in my life I was with someone who enjoyed it as much as I did.  He wanted me which was also a big difference from my past.  I don't ever remember being desired like that from anyone.  I also learned how much someone could enjoy something when you did everything you could to please them the way they loved it.  And this was really just the beginning of my learning and my road being a sugar baby.

In the beginning...

Many years ago my now ex-husband up and left with two days notice.  Yes, I know, at least he gave me a little notice.  I knew it was coming but didn't know when.  I had been asking him to leave for some time.  About a month before, a few days before Christmas, he told me he would give me what I wanted which was a divorce.  Over the past six years our marriage had started off bad and ended up 100 x's worse.  I had been a stay at home mom since the birth of our second daughter and had watched us lose our home and everything else we had.  So, when we decided we were going to split up I went back to work at night so I didn't have to pay child care.  Once he up and left I wasn't receiving any kind of child support or help from him and was on my own to afford everything he left behind.  Two months later I saw a show that spoke about www.seekingarrangement.com and I finally saw an out or at least something that would help my girls and I to get by.  So, I met a gentleman and that is where the journey begins.