The good, the bad and the ugly

After a few meetings and the out of town get together you would things would be smooth sailing.  Well, not so much.  You see a SD can only fulfill so much in a girls life.  And as mine said he thought I should start dating I did. 

I met and fell head over hills in love with a man who was extremely stable.  When I say extremely stable I mean owned his home (well mortgaged), owned his car (paid off) and had been at his job for nine years and loved what he did. So, you would think my life was grand.

Well, I wanted to keep seeing my SD since I was still living on my own and I had yet to move in with my new found love.  I needed to keep up with the bills and such.  However, my SD became very flaky.  Things like texting me non-stop to meet up with him so I would change my plans and such to do so.  Then once I was on my way to meet up with him nothing... no texts returned, no phone calls, nothing.  This happened several times and I became very irritated with the situation.

Yes, I realize that as a SB I am totally at the mercy of my SD but its very disrespectful to be like that.  So, the long and short of it all is I stopped being an SB for a while.  Actually almost an entire year to be exact.  During that year I moved in with my new found love, he built a new house for us four to move in to and we moved to it.  Then life would take another turn I never saw coming.

Here, there and every where

So the first few times we got together he came to my place.  This worked because my girls were at school or away to their father's.  See in the beginning of my divorce I was very nice and accommodating to try to make it easier on my girls so they were at their fathers a lot.  Anyway one night my SD decided he wanted me to come on a trip with him.  Actually he was out of town and text me begging for me to come keep him company.  Luckily I was off work and the girls were gone.  So after packing quickly and a two hour drive I met up with him at his hotel.  It was nice to be out of town and kind of free to be with him and not have to worry.  See I don't think I've explained yet that my SD was married.  If I did I'm sorry for repeating myself.  So, being discreet was key for him and since my life consisted of the po-dunk town I lived in, and my incredible girls, he had really no worries that anyone would find out about him and me.  Let alone the fact that my family would shun me for the rest of my life.  So there we were out of town together.  He took me out to dinner but gave me the low down of what the story was in case we ran in to someone he knew.  He was there on business so it was possible but unlikely we would run in to someone.  However... we did!!!  He covered well, I smiled and shook hands with someone I to this day would never know again and the night went on.  Dinner was nice but the obvious reason he begged me to come to see him was after dinner and was incredible.  I have never been with someone who could last like he did or that made me feel the way he did.  I made him so happy and pleased over and over and over.  The night was wonderful and I got up early to leave before anyone that he knew could see me leaving his room.  I got back in to my car to drive the two hours home and return to my normal life.  This would be the one and only time I would go out of town with him but it was a nice change from my normal life.